A Few Questions About Oral Sex - Ask A Housewife!

Today, we have a few questions from a gentleman about having oral sex with his wife, and his need to know if he is normal.

(Please note that questions posted are not edited in any way. Questions are copied verbatim as they were asked.)

"My wife and I have been married for 6 years and love each other.
When we do 69, I'm on top, sometimes she takes me past the point of no return and I cum in her mouth.
When I'm about to cum, I tell her but sometimes she doesn't listen to me. She hates the taste of cum.
Why does she take me passed the point of no return if she doesn't like my cum in her mouth? How do I help her?
I love going down on her. When I come home from work, she greets me at the door and as soon as I shut the door, I'm face buried into her.
Last night, we were preping for 4th of July picinic with our family.
She was wearing an apron and that's it. I didn't notice it until I was sitting peeling potatoes at the table.
I looked up and noticed her naked ass with her hairless pussy staring at me while she was bent over checking on the ham.
I silently got up and knelt behind her and kissed her beautiful pussy lips. She was shocked and excited at the same time. I had my way with her right there in the kitchen.
Are all guys this orally excited about their wife?"

BALLS!!!

Now.. did you actually think I was going to write a posting about the balls pictured on the left?
How much fun would that really be?! LOL!

What I'm actually going to tell you folks about is the little mishap that happened this past Friday that I hope to not repeat any time soon! I would also advise for none of you out there to follow in my example, but figured you might enjoy a funny read at my expense! haha!

Husband Getting Revenge? - Ask A Housewife!

On this week's submission of Ask A Housewife!, we have a married woman who had a previous affair; who is now worried that her husband may be doing the same.

(Please note that questions posted are not edited in any way. Questions are copied verbatim as they were asked.)

"I had an affair 3 years ago. My husband found out, but I never admitted it. We never got counseling. I fell back in love with him and I have been faithful since.
APpx 3 wks ago, he went on a trip and came back and told me it was over.
I admitted to him that I did have the affair, but I told him I loved him.
He has changed the way he wears his hair, trims his under arms, and has stayed out all night 2 Saturdays in a row and will not answer phone nor text.
Part of me feels like he is paying me back but my gut tells me that he is cheating. And he lies when he tells me where he is going.
Is it wrong for me to feel this way after what I did.
I screwed up bad and I have such remorse, but he acts like he hates me.
Also, he carries his phone everywhere and erases everything. Tonight, I think he blocked my calls because his account shows no trace of my calls nor from my son's phone.
I am so heartbroken!"

Eyes Wide... Open!

The anticipation was mounting for the "Eyes Wide Shut" masquerade ball.
The club that we most frequent, was celebrating their anniversary and what a way to celebrate!!
I had gotten everything I needed and was ready to party the night away!

I had my little black dress, a mask w/cheetah print and feathers (that I had borrowed from Kate), make-up all done up w/an exotic style and don't forget the patten leather hoochie shoes w/a 5 inch heel. All of that, plus my after midnight cheetah outfit that left little to the imagination. ;-)

Hubby and myself get to the club a little earlier than normal since this night was going to be huge, and was going to be a packed house early on.
When we arrived, Kate and her husband were already there in the area that we had reserved earlier. As soon as we made our way to the area, Kate immediately grabbed me and gave me a huge hug that was soon followed by an amazing kiss. Wow.. our first kiss!

Kate looked stunning in her all white dress w/white jeweled mask!
Hubby and myself made our rounds saying hi to everyone that we knew and soon settled in for a drink.
Looking through the crowd, it was quite a view with all the masquerade gowns, masks, and capes. Many of the women had only g-strings and tassels on, which were pretty nice to behold! The club filled up pretty quickly and was packed by around 10:30pm.

Busy-ness

I have been quite busy the last week, and the blog definitely shows it!
My absence has however, been justified as I have spent much of my time with Kate, along with normal life occurances.

On Wednesday of last week, Kate and myself along with a few other ladies had a picnic lunch and playdate for all of our children.

The tension (sexual of course ;-) ) was building up pretty fast because we weren't able to be as open around the kiddos. It can be frustrating and at the same time, exhilarating having our own little secret.
The other ladies that were there are also swingers, but it's somewhat taboo in the swinger world to have such a bond with another, that I wonder what the other ladies would have said or even thought if they really knew.
Regardless, we had a great time just being able to be around each other.
After leaving the park, I got a text from Kate that said, "May I say, the view today was simply splendid!"
I think that text actually made me blush, which isn't an easy thing to do!
You see, Kate had been sitting on top of a picnic table when we were all talking and I was sitting on the seat part beside her. I hadn't even thought about the view that I was giving her the whole time. If I would have known, I would have made it even better! hehe.

I Can't Turn Him on! - Ask a Housewife!

Today's question comes from a young lady who is having difficulties turning her boyfriend on via web cam.

(Please not that the question has not been altered in any way. Questions are copied verbatim.)

"hie,

so i have this other guy that i like so much, we kinda have a long distance relationship going on, & i try to keep it alive by chatting with him almost everyday.
The thing is i'm not good at talking dirty so he wants me to make him come buy stripping & the like on webcam.
I tried looking 4 videos online, & copied stuff, but he still gets upset that i dont please him/make him come or even turn him on, like really i try hard, i used sexy uniforms, dressed slutty, touched myself 4 him (which i dont like i general, masturbation is just not my thing.)


Can you give me any tips on how or what to do to make him come on webcam, thanks =)" 

Getting past an affair - Ask A Housewife!

The following question is from a gentleman that is facing marital problems after numerous affairs on his part and on his wife's.
He is looking for advice on how to reconcile their marriage and go on to build a healthy marital bond.

(Please note that questions posted are not edited in any way. Questions are copied verbatim as they were asked.)

"My wife and I have been married for 21 yrs together for 24.
I had 2 affairs before we were married. They meant nothing to me. They were just sexual.
We had a child together at the time and we were planning our marriage at the time.
I have been addicted to pornogphy for most of my adult life. I thot that info may be helpful.
I found out in 2005 that my wife has been emotionally attached to an ex lover ever since er were married. I found a letter she had written him telling me this.
We went thru hard times back then but seemed to work it out.
Recently I have found out that thru Facebook they have been in contact.
In march of 2010 they meet in a park approx. 140 mile from our house. I found this out when she told me after I saw the text messages on here cell.
She says she is still in love with this person but it isn't physical. What the heck does that mean?
We are really going thru some hard times right know. I find I can't trust here and that I'm checking her phone everytime she lays it down. She says she still loves me but she is unhappy.
We have a lot of debt and little money.
She has since told me that she will stop all contact with this person. And I will have nothiing to do with porn. I don't know what to do. I love her sooo much and I don not want to loose her but I do not want to be a fool or do I want to get hurt again.
please help."

Crackle, Sizzle, Pop!

There were more than fireworks popping on the Fourth of July this year!!

As I mentioned before, our family was getting together with Kate and Charlie's family to celebrate this July 4th and I must say that the evening was a bang!

We arrived at their home a little later than expected since poor dear hubby was stuck with on-call duty for the weekend, and he had gotten a call about the same time we were headed out the door.

We arrived at their home around 5pm and all the kids immediately got in the pool.
Soon after, we got everything together for dinner and sat down to a wonderful meal of chicken, brisket, sausage, beans, potato salad and a scrumptious fruit salad.
Just like the potato salad that I had made, Kate's fruit salad was also a recipe that had also been carried down for generations, and I can tell ya that I've never tasted a fruit salad so good!! Good cooking must run in their family, because the meat that Charlie had made was also very yummy! He even mentioned that he's won a few awards during some of the cook-offs that he's participated in, and I can see/taste why!

Not long after finishing dinner, and at the top popping sound of hubby's first beer of the evening, he received a call again to go into work.
Charlie volunteered to ride along with him and to see what it is that hubby actually does. So off they went.
This gave Kate and I a chance to talk more and get to know each other a little better. We sat out by the pool while the kids laughed and splashed around and we sipped on our Liquid Berry Alcohol Concoction that I brought out for us to enjoy. The drink was such a hit with her, that I'm thinking about patenting it.. LOL!

We talked and we talked, and found that we have more in common that we had originally thought. We talked about the lifestyle, things that got us into the lifestyle, polyamory, our sexuality and just about every topic we could think of. There was never a moment of pause, and the conversation flowed very easily and freely.
The guys returned about an hour and a half later about the same time as the sky was turning to dusk.

They live a little out of the way where it's not quite the country, but nowhere near a big city. It was very nice and peaceful and I felt right at home as the crickets and the bull frogs began their evening songs.
The guys gathered up the fireworks that they had accumulated and set out a plan of action on how they were going to set it all off.
Kate and I refreshed our drinks and got settled in to watch the show as the kids were hovered as closely as they could to their driveway to make sure they didn't miss a minute of firework mania.

Kate and I continued to talk throughout the fireworks display and at one point she had gotten up to refill her glass and when she returned, she stood behind me. She stood there for just a moment, and very nonchalantly glided her hand across the top of my bare back and stopped on my shoulder.
What shivers coursed through my body at the slightest of movements by her! Her skin touching mine was very innocent but at the same time, very thrilling.
I reached my hand up towards hers, and we clenched our hands together for just a moment as to not draw attention to anyone who would think otherwise.
From this action, I knew that Kate was as into me as I was into her, and I was THRILLED!!!

At one point, we were both looking up into the sky as the colors were shooting across and she commented, "The fireworks are beautiful, but not as beautiful as you!", and as she did this, she wrapped her arm around my waist and pulled me closer to her side.
I could not believe what I was hearing.. here is this gorgeous gal with the best personality and she thinks that I'm beautiful? HOLY COW!!!
I think I actually had to pinch myself for a moment to see if I was really awake!

The evening ended with plans to see each other again on the 17th, if not sooner. Oh.. I can't wait to see her again, and away from the prying eyes of children!

Hubby and I discussed the possibility of Kate and myself seeing each other, and he gave me his full blessing to pursue a relationship with her.
All four of us get along great, we have many commonalities, and our kids even had a blast playing together.
He told me that this is what I have wanted for a very long time, and he's happy for me!

Ooohhh, how I can't wait to see her again!!!

Knowing Harvey

I've found out throughout my life that sometimes you really don't know the people that you are close to.
One case as an example was a childhood friend that turned boyfriend, Harvey.
As I look back now, I can see things that led him to his true path in life and his self discovery, but I nor he realized it back then.

You see, I am not a 'typical' girl. I do not go goo-goo over all the girly things in life. My favorite color is not pink or purple, but green.. and growing up I found boys more easy to make friends of than girls.
Now don't get me wrong, I do enjoy being a woman but I am not afraid to get dirty, but neither am I the high maintenance type. I classify myself as being somewhere in the middle.

Barbie or G.I Joe ... A girl shouldn't have to choose!

Harvey and I met when I moved across the street from him during our 7th grade year.

We quickly became friends and spent most of our time together. We spent hours upon hours jumping on their trampoline, walking around the neighborhood, riding bikes, and even entering into bmx competitions, along with his two brothers.

We were the best of friends and were inseparable! Just like Forest and Jenny.. we were like peas and carrots.

My mom and myself lived there for about a year and to be closer to her work, we had to move.

A few years later, we moved back to that same house and Harvey and I picked up where we left off.. best friends... peas and carrots.

The Potato and Our Nation's Independence

As any self respecting southern woman would, I planned on making a potato salad for our little shindig for the 4th of July with Kate, Charlie and their family.
A store bought salad will just not do, as most southern women take pride in their homemade potato salads, as do I.

The recipe that I have is a family recipe that has been passed down and I've never had anyone run for the emergency room as of yet.. so I guess I'm doing something right. lol!


As I stood in the kitchen peeling the mound of potatoes that were before me, I thought about our soldiers who are out there in other countries and about past soldiers who fought for and to keep our independence.
Why would my mind wander to soldiers?
Well, if you've had a loved one in the military, then I'm sure you've heard the stories of the dreaded KP (Kitchen Patrol) duty. One wrong move and your little hiney would end up there peeling potatoes, onions and anything else they needed to feed the massive amounts of men and women.

Some men and women even enrolled in that division as to avoid being in direct combat. I'm really not sure which is worse because peeling potatoes is definitely not a fun chore especially if you are peeling for thousands.

On this year's Fourth of July celebration (although a day late in posting), I salute all of you men and women out there who have thought enough about the rest of us to take time out of your lives to serve our country and to fight for the freedoms that we have.

I give a warm, Texan hug to all of you out there who have lost loved ones while they were serving. Their great sacrifice is very much appreciated!

I thank all of my family who have served and continue to serve in varying branches of  the military; including U.S. Navy, U.S. Army, U.S. Air Force and the U.S. Marines.

Whether serving on the front lines, from an office desk, in a hospital, or peeling potatoes in a kitchen somewhere in a land that is not your own.. your sacrifice has not gone unnoticed... at least not by me!

Thank you!

A Date With Kate!

Ok.. maybe not a full fledged date, but at least we are getting together.
Granted, our husbands and children will also be there, but the point is, is that I get to spend some time with her.
I refer to this woman as "Kate" because she is just about the spitting image of the actress Kate Mara!

You can imagine my surprise when I received an email from her a little over a month ago, confessing her attraction to me!
She found my profile on a site for swingers that we are a part of.
Their (her and her husband's) profile, mirrors ours almost exactly, which is quite a rare thing we have found in the 2+ years that we have been actively been involved in the lifestyle.
Kate and myself have been talking quite frequently and have met once at a club and spent some time getting to know each other there, but it will be nice to see her out of the flashing lights and loud music which makes it difficult to really get to know someone.

Today is the big day, and I'm really excited! We'll be going over to their house to celebrate this year's Independence Day with some bar-b-q, and weather permitting... going for a swim in the pool.
When evening arrives, we'll all gather around a bon fire and shoot off fireworks deep into the cool breeze of the country's night sky.
They live quite a bit off of the beaten path down a dirt road so it will be nice to see the fireworks without the landscape of the city in the background. The colors will definitely shine!

So.. lookout for an update on how the day went, as I'm sure I'll be full of all sorts of details!! :-D

Twisting crazy acts of the Kama Sutra

If you are anything like me, you see the different types of positions found in the Kama Sutra and scratch your head trying to figure out how in the hell people actually found themselves in these positions.
While looking through the positions, most don't look very comfortable and are quite hard to actually get into.
A few years ago, hubby and myself bought a board game that entails some of the Kama Sutra and directs you to actually perform a position from a drawing on the playing cards. Some of which, are quite easy to perform, but others.. I think you might need some sort of degree in yoga to actually perform.
Here is a list of different positions that I found on a site that is quite informative. If you find yourself intrigued, please do visit their site to try and figure out how to accomplish these! Kama Sutra Sexual Positions
There were WAY too many for me to try to explain into detail.

This Month's Poll - July 2010

This month's poll is regarding sexual positions.

According to the Kama Sutra, there are 64 positions that they catagorize into a few areas.. Sitting, Standing, Rear Entry, and Role Reversal.
I will go further into these areas on tomorrow's posting, but I'm sure modern technology along with some bored over or undersexed people have created more than those original 64 from ancient texts.

This month's poll question:

Positions.. What is your favorite?

• Straight up missionary!
• Get me on all fours! Doggy style baby!
• I love numbers! 69 is for me!
• I'm too complicated to fit in this poll, see my comments!

Do you indeed have a favorite, or is anytime you get lucky enough to be able to enjoy sexual activities with someone besides yourself good enough to be considered your favorite?

I have two favorite positions, and yes.. I am a woman and I reserve the right to choose more than one option! LOL!
My first is what would be considered, "boring". Yep.. that traditional missionary style. Now don't get me wrong, I am quite adventurous in the sheets or wherever I may find myself getting it on, but the missionary position tends to put my spot in perfect alignment for the best sensation! So.. I like that one!
My 2nd favorite would be the giddy up and go cowgirl position.
I have found since having my hood pierced, that this position is very nice for external sensations of my clit and boy oh boy!! ;-)

I don't just stick to these positions, but I do find myself leaning more towards these positions than not. When you can add a variety to it and switch it up, it just makes it that much more fun.

So.. what about you? What position strikes your fancy?

Bare breasts and a little after sun advice

We had such a great time on our mini-vaca!
The water was icy-cold and the weather was extremely hot, so it all worked out well!
I don't think I have ever seen so many naked boobies floating about in one group in my life.. it was AWESOME!!
The bonus of it all, is that icy-cold water does wonders for the boobs! One minute you've got normal kinda looking boobs, and the next.. BAM! You've got perky little nipples that are begging for attention!
The downside, is that the arctic coldness of the river does the opposite for men! :-(
Boobs were all around bobbing about, but no wieners in sight! Maybe there needs to be an invention made up for swim trunk heaters.. now that's an idea!

Anywho.. with all the bare breasted women floating around during the day, there were quite a few women whose paleness turned to differing shades of red by the evening. Luckily, I kept mine under wraps for most of the time, with the occasional peek-a-boo.. so I didn't get red on the ta-ta's but managed to get quite red everywhere else.

So here are a few tips for all you sun bathing gods or goddesses out there who manage to find yourself in the 'red zone' during this funtastic summer!

A year has passed

A year ago today, my world changed.

This time last year, I was visiting my brother in the hospital who had been in a major car accident 5 days prior and had sustained a brain injury that would result in his death.
Surrounded by 2 of his sisters and 1 of his brothers, my brother left this world knowing he was loved.

I am the youngest of all of my siblings by quite a few years and did not grow up with them in the house. By the time I can remember, all of my brothers and sisters had already moved out.
At the age of 16, my brother, "D" had moved out and had helped form a band that would carry on for over 10 years and produce 3 albums with him being lead vocalist.
They traveled alot for performances, but I remember one special time that he stopped in while on tour to come to my 7th birthday party. That time was so special to me, that he thought enough about me to come and see me even though he was so busy at the time.
Because I was so young while he was with the band, I never did get to see him live in concert, but more special to me are the times that we sang together in our livingroom with the whole family playing guitars and singing.

Through my earlier adult years, I had lost contact with my brother and we were reconnected 5 years ago. I am so greatful for the last few years that I had to get to know my brother better as an adult, and for my children and my husband to be able to meet him and get to know him as well.
His name and his songs will forever remain in the music industry, but his heart will forever remain within our family and what he meant to us all.

Here's to you, "D"!
We love you, and miss you each day, but we know you are rockin' the heavens!!!

Not just for kids anymore

The Texas heat is really starting to get to me this year.
I'm not sure why it hasn't really felt that way before, but this year it seems as though it's just too hot to do much of anything outdoors.

With our a/c being on the fritz, it has been quite heated here recently (besides the normal heat that is generated in the master bedroom. ;-) hehe).
We are having some guys come out soon to clean out the air ducts, so we are hoping that will fix the problem.
In the last week, I have had the thermostat set on 62 degrees, and the reading in the house is a smoldering 86 degrees.
I'm sure that the skylights that we have in the home (4 of them) do not help with keeping the house cool, and we are working on a solution for that as well.

A busy week

This week promises to be quite busy indeed!
With our impending mini-vaca to the Guadalupe river with the K.O.S. (Krewe of Swingtown) group, along with our normal daily responsiblities, we have quite a bit of things to get taken care of before we leave.
Not that you really care what I have planned for this week, but hopefully writing it down will help me to remember what all I need to get done.

Any man can be a Father...

.. but it takes a special person to be called Dad!

Happy Father's Day to all you Dad's out there who hold a special place in your child's heart, no matter how old they are!

A little history time line about this day...

• 1909 - On Mother's day, Sonora Smart Dodd (Who was raised by her father alone after the death of her mother) invisioned this day becoming a reality after hearing a sermon.
• June 19, 1910 - The first father's day was celebrated in Spokane, Washington. Sonora chose the month of June to celebrate fathers because her father's birthday fell in June.
• 1926 - The National Father's Day Committee was formed in New York city.
• 1956 - Father's Day was recognized by a Joint Resolution of Congress
• 1972 - President Richard Nixon established a permanent national observance of Father's Day to be held on the third Sunday of June.

Let the father's in your life know how much they mean to you on this day!

To my husband, and the father of our children.. What you do for our family on a daily basis shows your love, and on this day.. relax, take a break and let us honor you for all that you are!

A Wii Warning

After having to purchase a brand new Wii system a few weeks ago, I thought it best to place this little warning out there for all who love playing on the Wii gaming system.

I've owned every Nintendo system that has ever been made, and I've NEVER had a problem with any of my systems until now.
Hell.. until recently, I still owned the Super Nintendo, and we still currently have the N64.
Never before, until the recent gaming systems have they been more commonly able to access the internet.
Since we have had computers hacked and viruses completely wipe them out, we aren't too eager to connect our gaming systems (We have the Wii & the PS3) to the massive world wide web.
A few weeks ago, we rented the new Super Mario Galaxy 2 that was just released. We played it a few times and we kept the system on when we went to bed that night in order to not lose the 75 lives we had gained through playing.
When we came back the next day to continue playing, the screen had an error message that stated, "Disk Error". Well crap.. we thought. All the lives we had gained were now gone, but oh well.. it happens.

LGBT Pride Month - Houston

LGBT PRIDE MONTH

As you may know (or for those of you who do not), June has been declared LGBT Pride month by President Obama.

Regardless of my feelings regarding Obama, this is one thing he has done that will continue to have a positive affect on society breaking down the prejudices and hate towards lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgenders.

Houston has a big LGBT population and community, and awareness is always around. The Houston LGBT community hosts numerous events during June to support awareness and pride including; Houston Pride Festival and Parade held June 26th, Pride Idol, Dine with Pride held June 23rd, and Rock the Runway held June 25th.

Information about these events, as well as others can be found at:  http://www.pridehouston.org/