He is looking for advice on how to reconcile their marriage and go on to build a healthy marital bond.
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"My wife and I have been married for 21 yrs together for 24.
I had 2 affairs before we were married. They meant nothing to me. They were just sexual.
We had a child together at the time and we were planning our marriage at the time.
I have been addicted to pornogphy for most of my adult life. I thot that info may be helpful.
I found out in 2005 that my wife has been emotionally attached to an ex lover ever since er were married. I found a letter she had written him telling me this.
We went thru hard times back then but seemed to work it out.
Recently I have found out that thru Facebook they have been in contact.
In march of 2010 they meet in a park approx. 140 mile from our house. I found this out when she told me after I saw the text messages on here cell.
She says she is still in love with this person but it isn't physical. What the heck does that mean?
We are really going thru some hard times right know. I find I can't trust here and that I'm checking her phone everytime she lays it down. She says she still loves me but she is unhappy.
We have a lot of debt and little money.
She has since told me that she will stop all contact with this person. And I will have nothiing to do with porn. I don't know what to do. I love her sooo much and I don not want to loose her but I do not want to be a fool or do I want to get hurt again.
please help."
